The one who does nothing makes no mistakes.

Theodore Roosevelt

To err is common to every person. But not admitting your mistakes is the biggest mistake. This is the height of stubbornness, which is often confused with determination, although there is a big difference between these concepts.

1. Stubbornness - behavior, in which a person ignores the requirements of people to him, does not follow instructions, does it out of spite.
2. Purposefulness is trait which helps a person achieve the desired results.

Stubborn people face misunderstanding and condemnation of others. The inability to integrate into society and the unwillingness to admit mistakes leads to conflicts. The person becomes aggressive and withdrawn. She may have mental problems.

The ability to admit one's own mistakes is important for personal development. How to develop it, we will tell in the article. Following the recommendations, you will learn to avoid conflicts, misunderstandings in communication and be able to control emotions in any situation.

Why people don't admit their mistakes

Everyone is familiar with the feelings caused by the recognition of one's own mistake. Shame, feeling of personal defeat, fall. They stop many from confessing in situations like this.

The reasons for not wanting to admit a mistake are external and internal.

External

These are circumstances that we cannot influence or partially influence. They do not depend on us and can happen at any moment.

• Transport breakdown.
• Bad weather conditions.
• Late time.
• Little child at home.
• Unseen circumstances.
• Injury or accident.
• Another person interfered.
• Delay at work.
• Disease.

Internal

Few will dare to show their shortcomings, and look for an external reason for excuses. As a result, relief comes, shame does not press, in the eyes of others it was justified. But only for the near future. If other mistakes follow, and the picture is not corrected towards admitting mistakes, the person will lose trust and respect in the eyes of others.

In fact, a seeming defeat turns into a victory for a person who admits his guilt, both in the eyes of other people and in his own. This is a sign of strength.

You need to be able to be flexible in relationships with people, in relation to the performance of professional tasks. If you take on a case, you are also responsible for it.

What are the consequences of this behavior

The clash of internal attitudes that contradict each other leads to - psychological discomfort.

It is manifested by a painful perception of the situation, a sense of shame and leads to the search for ways to justify one's mistakes. This is an attempt to remove the burden of responsibility from oneself and shift it to circumstances or other people by stubbornly denying one's wrong, sometimes even using cunning or deceit. This is the position of the victim.

Why you need to admit mistakes

The trend in the moral development of society is such that people who are able to admit their mistakes enjoy great respect and honor. There are few strong-willed people. They are valuable, they hold on tightly, they are needed. After all, their honesty, high level of self-criticism and willpower deserve absolute trust.

A defeat can always be turned into a victory: to correct a mistake, to do much better. And in the professional plane, such character traits will be highly appreciated. Admitting one's guilt frees one from the psychological burden.

The one who knows how to admit that he is wrong, has the ability to own emotions, respect the opinions of others, be critical of himself and strive to correct his shortcomings.

To do this, you need to constantly develop and learn to accept constructive criticism.

How to learn to admit that you are wrong

Most people are willing to accept an apology and forgive. After recognition, you need to internally calm yourself, praise and stop self-flagellation. Evaluate not yourself and your behavior as a whole, but a single act.

There is an effective psychological exercise - "Mistake". It will help you learn to accept yourself with your shortcomings, not being afraid to admit it to yourself and others. Especially if you are prone to exaggerated experiences, you see disaster in mistakes.

Step 1

1. To make it easier to accept your own, even a serious mistake, you need to express it in a funny way. Say to yourself ironically: Mistake" or " Mistake came out”, accompanying what was said with a frivolous gesture of hands.
2. You can copy any animated character. You need to pronounce it in a playful manner, being in a relaxed internal state.
3. First, say it out loud in front of your friends or in front of others. Take it to the level of a ritual. Then you can do it mentally.
4. After recognition, you will not want to engage in destructive self-criticism.

Step 2

Switch perception from negative to positive:

• Mentally or really wrap your arms around your shoulders;
• Say out loud or to yourself: I'm good". Or compose another phrase that carries the same semantic load.

Swearing, we turn on the self-defense system. Learn to defend yourself with praise. Try to praise the other person during a fight and you will witness their transformation.

A person who has developed the ability to be stronger than pride and has learned to switch perception from negative to positive becomes a self-confident, independent and self-sufficient director of relationships with people.

Step 3

Transition to action. Give yourself the setting: Work". Get down to fixing the error. But first, apply the error differentiation rule: separate minor errors from global, significant ones. Erase the first ones from memory, work on the second ones so as not to repeat them.

Learn to accept criticism, trust the advice and corrections of those people who are your guides, in whose sincere and benevolent attitude you are sure.

Also, learn to resist the temptation to criticize others over petty trifles. Apply the error differentiation rule. If it is necessary to express a critical opinion, do it in a matter-of-fact, kind and condescending manner. Don't label a person's personal characteristics.

When and how to admit your own mistake

Main psychological attitudes:

1. Confess immediately at the moment of realizing the mistake and your guilt. Do not delay, so as not to change your mind, succumbing to doubts.
2. Make a categorical confession: Yes, it's my fault and I'm ready to take responsibility". Video to the material

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Was wrong, flared up ....

Who among us hasn't made mistakes in our lives? And not only committed, but then regretted and suffered? I think there is no such person who would answer negatively to these questions.

For any person periodically. After all, only those who do nothing do not make mistakes. Although sometimes, in my opinion, this is the biggest mistake. Now I want to talk not about the mistakes themselves, but about their consequences. More precisely, about correcting their negative consequences.

The ability to admit one's mistakes is a great virtue and a great art. Not everyone can be able to retreat, accept their mistake and correct it. Many believe that by admitting a mistake, thereby a person shows weakness.

And is it really so?

I think that every person at least once found himself in a situation where, with enviable persistence, he defended his point of view, although it was clear to him and to everyone around him that this position was erroneous. Why is it so difficult to admit your mistake, what prevents you from doing it?

What prevents us, as it seems to us, is an excess of pride. But it only seems, because in reality it is ....

Fear of being defeated, bad, stupid, unrecognized, rejected, unloved. People who do not know how to admit their mistakes are overcome by the fear of loneliness and. They are the reason for the sometimes absurd upholding of an erroneous position. Some parents also do their part when they inspire the child: “Whatever it was, defend your point of view!”

For most people, retreat is a sign of weakness. In fact, by recognizing his mistake, a person takes responsibility and admits that he does not know how, does not know something. He becomes open, unprotected. And combined with the fear of loneliness, this is a serious test for someone who is not confident in himself and his surroundings.

Retreat, like any show of “weakness,” requires great strength. After all, it is not in vain that they say that a strong and courageous person can admit his mistake, but a coward will persist. Although such “cowardice” is rather the misfortune of a person who thinks that having publicly admitted his mistake, he becomes insecure, fickle, doubtful, changing his mind. And since, in his understanding, all these are negative traits of character, then, showing these qualities, he, as a result, becomes bad.

In fact, we have come to the point that for a person who does not know how to admit his mistakes, the problem lies not in the mistakes themselves, but lies much deeper. If it is difficult for a person to admit and accept that he can make mistakes and do something wrong, you need to understand the attitudes that prevent him from doing it. You need to understand what causes discomfort and pain.

Only the answers to these questions will help you abandon stereotypes, realize the underlying reasons that prevent you from admitting mistakes, become more self-confident, stronger and happier.
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Was wrong, flared up ...

Who among us hasn't made mistakes in our lives?

And not only committed, but then regretted and suffered?

I think there is no such person who would answer negatively to these questions.

For any person periodically making mistakes is okay.

After all, only those who do nothing do not make mistakes. Although sometimes, in my opinion, this is the biggest mistake. Now I want to talk not about the mistakes themselves, but about their consequences. More precisely, about correcting their negative consequences.

The ability to admit one's mistakes is a great virtue and a great art. Not everyone can be able to retreat, accept their mistake and correct it. Many believe that by admitting a mistake, thereby a person shows weakness.

And is it really so?

I think that every person at least once found himself in a situation where, with enviable persistence, he defended his point of view, although it was clear to him and to everyone around him that this position was erroneous. Why is it so difficult to admit your mistake, what prevents you from doing it?

What prevents us, as it seems to us, is an excess of pride. But it only seems, because in fact it is fear….

Fear of being defeated, bad, stupid, unrecognized, rejected, unloved. People who do not know how to admit their mistakes are overcome by the fear of loneliness and uncertainty. They are the reason for the sometimes absurd upholding of an erroneous position. Some parents also do their part when they inspire the child: “Whatever it was, defend your point of view!”

For most people, retreat is a sign of weakness. In fact, by recognizing his mistake, a person takes responsibility and admits that he does not know how, does not know something. He becomes open, unprotected. And combined with the fear of loneliness, this is a serious test for someone who is not confident in himself and his surroundings.

Retreat, like any show of “weakness,” requires great strength. After all, it is not in vain that they say that a strong and courageous person can admit his mistake, but a coward will persist. Although such “cowardice” is rather the misfortune of a person who thinks that having publicly admitted his mistake, he becomes insecure, unstable, doubting, changing his mind. And since, in his understanding, all these are negative traits of character, then, showing these qualities, he, as a result, becomes bad.

In fact, we have come to the point that for a person who does not know how to admit his mistakes, the problem lies not in the mistakes themselves, but lies much deeper.

If it is difficult for a person to admit and accept that he can make mistakes and do something wrong, you need to understand the attitudes that prevent him from doing it. You need to understand what causes discomfort and pain.

Only the answers to these questions will help you abandon stereotypes, realize the underlying reasons that prevent you from admitting mistakes, become more self-confident, stronger and happier.

We often commit rash acts, which then give back to pain or trouble. But to err is human. However, the ability to admit one's mistakes is simply necessary, otherwise our life can turn into endless soul-searching. But how to do this without harming yourself and others?

Error error is different. A mistake in a relationship with a man is different from an erroneous tactic in doing business. But both of them can be fatal. Therefore, you always need to be on the alert and know how to fix, or better, prevent a critical step.

You need to know - we are learning only on my own mistakes, and lived by us, even if it is wrong, gives invaluable experience. Well, what should not be done categorically is to repeat the same omissions over and over again.

Let's look at some common mistakes we make in our lives.

Errors at work

By definition, a leader must be the smartest and most competent in his unit. The question arises: why then should he admit his mistakes, and even in the presence of subordinates? And in order to increase the efficiency of the work of the entire team, so that the work is based on the principles. In those companies where the leader is afraid to talk about his mistakes, swamping, stagnation often occurs, and the company loses its market position.

Also of no small importance for the company is the error of an ordinary employee. The well-being of dozens of people often depends on the ability of an employee to tell his boss about his mistake. The most banal example: a technician servicing an aircraft or other mode of transport made a mistake and did not tell about it for fear of being fired. His mistake could cost people their lives. A bank teller's mistake can lead to incorrect payments - again, people will suffer.

What to do? Confess to a perfect jamb or fix it silently (but with the promise not to hide it, namely to do it as it should be). Yes, there is a risk of arousing the wrath of the authorities and losing the bonus, and even the place of work. But is it better to live with a troubled conscience? And the boss, who perceives this as a valuable experience, will be appreciated by his subordinates even more.

Parental mistakes often cost children well-being in later life. The most common parenting mistake is imposing your way of thinking on children and choosing a life path for them. Mom and dad dream that their son becomes a doctor or a lawyer, and the guy likes to make up his sister and her girlfriends and invent outfits for them.

Parents are horrified what are you doing, some kind of nonsense, a march to learn chemistry with biology, otherwise you won’t become a doctor! Well, if the son rebels and goes his own way, but if not? The feeling of dissatisfaction with life is the least that is provided to him.

No less expensive are the mistakes of moms and dads when they let children's questions take their course. Finding it difficult to answer, parents usually answer them with the first thing that comes to mind. And then the child returns to them with other information and wonders how it is, because mom said ... Admit a mistake? But will this not drop parental authority in the eyes of a son or daughter? Yes, at first it will drop, but it's not scary. It is much worse to lose the trust of a child.

What to do? By admitting that we are wrong, we give our children the understanding that parents who admit their mistakes are adults and smart people who can be respected and taken from them. However, while apologizing to the child, do not weaken the usual requirements for him. He must understand that an apology is a sign of spiritual strength, not weakness.

We make the most mistakes in relationships. We approach a partner with our own standards and claims, demanding from him to be perfect, and at the same time turn a blind eye to our own imperfection. A smart person should be aware that both partners always contribute to a relationship. And the one who is wiser and who is more interested in smoothing out the conflict is the first to admit his mistakes. But, of course, in life everything is more complicated than in theory.

Feelings, especially negative ones, are not always able to quickly disappear. Often we are tempted to forgive, but with a condition. Even if the partner accepts such conditions of reconciliation, it is quite possible that he will then think very hard about the expediency of your relationship.

What to do? First, you need to be able to convey your position to your partner without conflict. Secondly, you need to be sincere in your repentance. And thirdly, if you have repented of what you have done, you must firmly grasp that you no longer have the right to make such a mistake. And the most difficult thing is to admit your mistakes to yourself. It is very important that recognition does not turn into a vicious circle system.

Admitting mistakes should be the first step towards self-development, not complacency. So that this process does not turn into self-digging and self-destruction, it is worth doing the following inner work with yourself:

1. Alone with yourself, calmly admit the fact that you did something wrong.
2. Analyze the reasons for what happened. Do not dwell on superficial circumstances, try to get to the bottom of the problem.
3. Think about what needs to be done in the future so that such situations do not arise again.

We hope our advice will help you figure it out if suddenly a difficult situation arises in your life.